Need a break đ
Nov 1, 2018 6:06:55 GMT -8
Post by mikeq on Nov 1, 2018 6:06:55 GMT -8

I have a deep respect for the marriage arrangement and for people who value their vows, even when things get difficult. But sometimes imperfect humans try to create an âalternate universeâ and impose that universe (or kingdom) on their marriage mate, and the one creating this kingdom gets the other to buy into it. This âalternate universeâ may have nothing to do with what God intended when he instituted the marriage arrangement.
You need some relief from physical work and from continuous mental responsibility. Your mate has had you available to himself almost 24/7. That works for HIM. But, without in any way disregarding your marriage vows or other high moral principles, if you need help caring for your husband, you have the right to get that help, whether he agrees or not, because it also matters what works for YOU. And if that doesnât work for HIM, then...well, I guess he has a phone.
Victoria: you are in a real dilemma. I know Stoke Mandeville well. Why not speak to one of the para-pathetic nurses in outpatients. Ester is the leading nurse. She would be able to advise you. Incidentally, who is your husband's consultant? Do you visit Stoke man regularly as I do (I have a baclofen pump that needs filling every twelve weeks or so)? You can always ring them if you don't have appointments. I understand how you must feel, particularly as your husband is frightened or wary of change. Vintage is right. If you've reached the point of breaking, then you will be no good to yourself or your husband. You have to explain this to him. Your situation needs to be resolved or your life will become miserable and resentful, which will have a negative effect on your relationship. Your husband could end up permanently on his own but for the sake of a couple of weeks without you.