lavender, I’ve just got to tell you,.. when I finally was able to read my hospital record I saw that for three days in a row, the police department kept calling the hospital to see if I was still alive. I’m sure that the driver who hit me was really happy that I made it.
Thank you frey i recall early on when I was still in a cute injury area. The thought came to me, you can't get or barter with God all you can do is accept the situation and move on. It is what has kept me going, pushing myself to do better, to be a better person. Life can really suck at times. But I still always know I have It so much better than others.
It’s common fare in sit-coms or teen movies for family members to rush one or the other to ‘hurry up, we have to go’. But these vignettes are premised around teenagers doing their make-up, doing their hair, changing from a brown dress to a red dress, etc., and the primping causes a delay to the rest of the group. These are scenarios that the culprit then proceeds to “outgrow’. What is cruel and inhumane in the case of criticism of a disabled person taking too long is that the disabled person is taking care of a necessity,...and that the “speed” of taking care of that necessity is unlikely to change to the satisfaction of the critic in this lifetime. The critic needs for someone to explain to him/her/them that this isn't a “phase” that the injured person is going through. Rather, it is a permanent situation. The critic should realize that he/she/them can complain until they are blue in the face and their injured relative [you] won’t be finishing in the bathroom any faster - - - ever!
I don't have to cath but it takes as long as when I did (no pressure, stream is like a leaking paper cup).
I think your relatives need to cut you some slack. Seriously... They may not be able to relate to what you have to go through but they need to show some patience and understanding.
Same here, not a cather. But I have trouble to stay balanced on the throne, and have virtually no sensation to know when I am really done, so no "second coming". Frey, you are a speed demon! It usually takes me 15 minutes, sometimes more. When people bug me about it, I just ask, "Want to trade places?"
Great thread, as incontinence is surely one of the hardest things about being paralyzed.
frey, I really do sympathise with you, catheterising isnt really something that can be rushed but you seem pretty quick actually. I just tell anyone who visits now, if I need to attend to something regarding bladder and bowels, I will be a significant length of time.
This makes me angry. Those people should be ashamed of themselves. I don’t know what your age situation is but if I were in your place I would tell them I’d rather stay home and not have to deal with the criticism.
That thought occurred to me, too, cordless. It’s just such a difficult stand to take, especially since our posibilities of expanding our circle of friends is often limited, due to our conditions. Taking a stand on the issue, such as you suggest, might have the good effect of giving a sobering realization of the error of their ways to those family members who have been so inconsiderate.
I honestly don’t see anything wrong with 5-10 minutes. I’m going on 2 years being a quadriplegic and that’s about my average cathing time from chair. Life from a chair is not easy but you will conquer it. Trying to speed things up leaves more room for error and sloppiness, don’t want to catch a uti because you didn’t want to spend an extra minute. I’ve had my fare share of Uti’s from being sloppy and it’s not fun