Post by softballdad on Jan 6, 2018 19:19:02 GMT -8
Hey dude nobody "wants" to "live" in a wheelchair but you just deal with what happened and persevere. I was 14 when I broke my neck and was an athlete. Dark thoughts and wondering if you have the will to live are natural things that happen after a severe accident like we've been through. I asked my older brother to smother me with a pillow in the hospital but he wouldn't do it. I attemptd to check out a couple times in the next couple years but eventually came to grips with my situation and realized I can still live a life. I'm 39 years post injury, married 28 years, have 2 beautiful girls in college, and have been employed full time since graduating college 30 years ago. The best thing I did to recover mentally was move out of the comfy confines of my parents house and went away to college. I met girls, made a lot of friends in the dorms, and got my degree. Today I cope with smoking weed every day. It helps with depression, anxiety, mood, pain, spasticity, appetite, and sleep. It truly is a wonder drug. All the best.
I second softballdad, I am only a year post injury. I’m 23 And had my injury at 22 I was already married and had a child. I went from being a jack of all trades, knowing how to work on everything from cars to houses and everything in between, never needed help from anyone. I remember driving home from work the night of my accident in then Waking up a month and a half later from coma being useless. I’m a c5 Quad, The way I dealt with that is by staying as active as I could, pushing around outside listening to music just staying active. There’s a lot of adaptive sports for people in wheelchairs, wheelchair rugby is one that I’m actually looking into myself. But I think I can speak on behalf of other people that we all still have bad days every now and then
Hi Eric. It’s always bittersweet when we “welcome” new members here. We wouldn’t wish this on anybody just to have the pleasure of their company. I hated living in hospitals and nursing homes. I’m back in my own house now. The government gives me a part-time aide. I’m paraplegic. I cook and ride the city van to buy groceries. Last week I mail-ordered the parts to make a kitchen drawer and built it. Rolls out. Rolls in. This may not seem exciting to some people, but it was a big thrill to me! Do you have hopes of getting out of the rehab hospital? You say that you are almost fully independent. What do you mean? Are you able to transfer from the bed to the wheelchair without assistance? Also, if you don’t mind telling us, what is your level of injury?
I’m a t4 para! I’m flying through my rehab classes I’m at Craig Hospital it’s 8-4 everyday of classes therapies and stuff. I can independent pop over off of bed into my chair, onto bathroom equipment, slide board into the passenger seat of a car easy. Learning hand controls in these next coming weeks.
You are 'almost' independent, which implies that you have a degree of independence. Think about it. Think how lucky you are not how unfortunate you are. Some guys here are totally paralysed. They can't move their arms or legs and they can't breathe without a machine doing it for them. I haven't heard one of them moan about their condition. Sooner or later you've got to accept what has happened to you. You do have choices. You either get on with it or you opt out. It's pointless being in no man's land, just sitting there and feeling sorry for yourself.
Hey Eric and welcome to the forum. i can understand how you feel. I'll be honest and I'm pretty sure everyone else feels this way but there will be days where it's difficult. As Mikeq has stated there are people here that have no movement in there arms and require a ventilator to breath, I'm one of those people. I broke my neck at c3c4 in a dirtbike accident and have no movement from the shoulders down. I completely reliy on someone to help me with everything but I still try to take on each day with a positive attitude. Make sure you surround yourself with a good support system, your close friends and family. Take one day at a time and don't get hung up on what you can't control and always look at the positives. If you keep getting hung up on the negatives you won't succeed. Good luck in rehab, give it your all and never give up!
Wow Eric, you found your tribe. NONE of us want to live in our wheelchairs. Still, that is a lot better than living without them. Being young is tough whatever our circumstances, but like your friends, eventually you will prove yourself to yourself and from that point life gets easier. The absolute most important thing at the very beginning is to learn good health practices so you stay healthy to persue whatever dreams you cook up. If you use a catheter, and 90% of us do, practice very clean habits. Learn everything you can about avoiding UTIs. Secondly, don't just sit in your chair. Practice 'pressure release' moves every 20-30 minutes so the skin on your butt gets good enough circulation. Pressure soars and UTIs are the main problems we face. They can ruin and end our lives so take it seriously.
Advantages? Some girls will want to talk to you just because guys in chairs look non-threatening. Some of them will like you and want to date you. Life is good.
Are you cute, Eric? Lol. Maybe you can be in the 2 percent of disabled actors. “A recent study showed that less than 2 percent of actors onscreen were themselves actually disabled, despite the fact that people with disabilities make up nearly 20 percent of the U.S. population...” www.vulture.com/2016/12/speechless-micah-fowler-interview.html
The human mind is amazing in its ability to adjust to new circumstances and overcome difficulties. I wouldn't say anyone wants to live in a chair, but you can still live-regardless of whether or not you are in a chair. It may be hard to adjust at first but you are still more than capable of living a fulfilling life regardless of your level of injury Support networks are important at this difficult time and it's encouraging to hear that you are getting that through your rehab. How about your friends and/or family? Are they in the picture? You have come to the right place, the people on here are awesome and can provide empathy and advice so I hope you stay around! Best of luck with your recovery and training